You're Only As Young As You Feel

by Nick Chapman




I have just returned from a thought-provoking stay with one of my nieces and her children. We shared lots of laughs, reminiscences over coffee and doughnuts and lively, late-night heart-to-hearts, but what it's left me really thinking about is the off-kilter way we look at age and ageing


We took my great-nephews to their local park where brand-new and exciting climbing frames, swings and a roundabout have won their devotion. Said roundabout flung the youngest boy off, after being provoked into furious revolutions by his wickedly grinning elder brother. He would not be comforted and was eventually told by his mother not to be such a baby. Through his tears, he managed, "Mummy, I am a baby though!" The poor wee lamb has just turned four.


Whatever age we are, we are frequently told that we should be acting as though we are another. When we are young, we are under pressure to grow up. When we are grown up, we are under pressure to look, act and feel like a teenager!


There is a season for all things. The Bible tells us so, songs have been sung and prose has been written on the topic. Even if we have not really thought about it much, most of us realize that there is a time and a place for everything. Except when it comes to ageing, apparently. We seem to be expected to stay young forever, or at least do our utmost not to look, or act our age. Why? What is so wrong with being and looking the age you are? Other societies value and cherish their old folk. Mature people are revered as 'Elders' and looked up to as seniors. They are respected for the positive value of their experience and wisdom and are therefore not expected to undergo the indignities that accompany the struggle to look 20 years younger than they are. They are not made to feel inadequate, or as if they are failing in some way, because they are unavoidably leaving their youth behind. It is for that very reason that they are valued.


In our society a great deal of thought, energy and let's not forget cash, goes into attempting to roll back the years. We desperately try, in various and ever-complex ways, to cover up the evidence of advancing age, despite the many advantages of maturity accompany that ageing. Heaven forbid though, that any of the maturation process shows on our face.


I am (only!) 'middle-aged' but I am surrounded and bombarded by people telling me how I ought to still feel and act as though I'm 20, (which thankfully, I don't) or, if I spend just £87.20 each month on this lovely new cream containing mega-prokylite enzyme and polysincaloptic acid blended with fruit pulp from the rare Toki-Toki plant that only flowers at midnight once every sixteen years, I can also look as though I am, too. If not that, then great-great-grandmothers are boasting wildly to me from the television or Woman's Hour about how youthful and carefree they are, having just divorced their 89-year-old husband, and as proof tell about how they throw themselves out of aircraft, swim shark infested waters, trek through the Gobi desert for 18 months with only a camel for company or are planning a trip to Alaska, where they intend to drive a team of eight huskies 120 miles along a glacial ridge stark naked. OK, so I might be exaggerating slightly, but you get my drift.


I led a very active, quite adventurous and sometimes, admittedly, a bit of a wild life as a youngster. But those days' behaviours, and the motivations for them, are behind me and of their time, and now I'm quite content to do things that are less risky, less likely to lead to cardiac arrest or end up with me dying of shock or fright or needing to look into the cost and effectiveness of incontinence pads.


Why is there such pressure on us to buy the appearance of youth and why do we fall for it hook, line and sinker? Two reasons, both sadly very powerful human drives. Greed and vanity.


The retailers, be they multibillion-dollar cosmetic companies, the rag-trade, the providers of adventure holidays for the over 50s, would not have their greed satiated (not that it ever will be) if it were not for our vanity.


Of course, advertisers exploit other human insecurities to sell products and earn their huge fees. Our fear of the grim reaper is one - "See, I'm bungee-jumping off the Sydney Harbour Bridge and I'm 92! Watch me cheat death!" Sex of course is another. The whole thing boils down to the people who want to sell us something focusing on our natural vulnerabilities and exacerbating them, and we, the vain and insecure public, rushing out to buy their 'cures' and give them our money, often without even realizing we have been hoodwinked.


Well, I for one have made a firm decision to rein in my vanity spending. After all, I am not a complete fool, how hard can it be to resist the pressure to part with cash for treatments, and therapies, that, let's face it, are often a con anyway.


Oh, hang on, the postie has just dropped off my 'Hollywood-White Ultra-Bright Teeth Bleaching Kit' - gives me time to 'rejuvenate my smile' before Friday's gym session. (Half-price membership for the over 50s). Sorry, now what was I saying...?




                                               Copyright © Nick Chapman 2010

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I Spy Through My Pony's Eye!

by Nick Chapman

So, how does my pony view things?


Your pony does not see the world as you do.
All members of the horse family, including ponies, wild ass and zebra, evolved as 'prey' animals, (they make good eating!) and so over millions of years, they have developed extremely sharp senses and reactions, helping them escape any predators wanting to eat them, including our ancestors! This means that your pony is naturally suspicious of anything unfamiliar to him and if he is frightened or feels that his safety is threatened, his instinct is to get away as fast as possible. If you are a horse, pony or zebra in the wild, you don't have time to stop and think; if you're slow to react you may well end up as someone's dinner!


Evolution, then, has hard-wired your pony to see the world as a potentially dangerous place and his instinct to take flight is probably as alive today as it's ever been.


When we understand just how scary some things can appear to a pony, we can appreciate even more just how amazing it is that they co-operate with us as they do, and, if they trust us, will even go against their instincts to please us.

Why is my pony's sight so special?


Your pony's eyesight is remarkable and is often the first sense that will alert him to danger. Just think how good he is at noticing movement in the distance, vital if you want the advantage of a head-start when you're running for your life! This is thanks to the size of his eye. Horses and ponies have the largest eye of all land mammals.


Like other prey animals, your pony's eyes are set on the side of his head. This gives him a very wide field of vision which he can extend even further by bending his neck. If there is something dangerous stalking you from behind, it pays to be able to see it as soon as possible.


Your pony does have blind spots, however. One of these is directly in front of him, another is directly behind. This is why the best way to approach a horse or pony is slightly from the side, so that you he can see you clearly.
 
How does my pony see?



Primarily your pony uses what is known as monocular vision, that is, he sees a different picture in each eye. Like humans though, he also uses binocular vision - using both eyes to focus on something.


The top part of your pony's retina, (the cells at the back of the eye where images are formed) is responsible for long-range sight. This is why he will raise his head to see things in the distance. The lower part of the retina is used to see things that are nearby and so your pony will lower his head to see something close up


When your pony changes from using monocular vision to binocular vision in order to zoom-in on something, the object can appear to jump into focus, which is why he might suddenly shy at something you thought he had seen. By calmly allowing your pony time to get a good look at something that has spooked him, he will be able to get it into focus, see that it is of no danger, and chances are, he will quickly settle down.

Does my pony see in colour?


For a long time it was thought that ponies could only see in black and white, but research has shown that they are actually able to distinguish some colours.

Can my pony see in the dark?

Ponies have excellent night vision. A pony's eye is also good at making use of fairly low levels of light such as at dawn and dusk, but is not good at adjusting quickly from light to dark or vice versa. It makes sense then, that sometimes a pony will baulk initially when going from a sunny yard into the dark interior of an unfamiliar trailer or stable.




Always try to see things from your pony's point of view.


If you always try and see things from your pony's point of view, you will come to understand his behaviour better and through this understanding can build and develop the closest bond with your best friend.
                                                               

                                                Copyright © Nick Chapman 2010



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Healing Hounds!

by Nick Chapman

Can owning a dog help reduce the number of visits you make to your doctor?

It does seem that keeping a dog significantly contributes to overall wellbeing and good health.

Repeated research has shown that dog owners are generally healthier and tend to live longer than non-owners.

More recent research in America has shown that keeping a dog is a more effective treatment than certain drugs, in preventing high peaks in blood pressure during periods of increased stress or tension.

Both our mental and physical health is improved by dog ownership. The mere act of stroking a dog fosters a feeling of calm, lowers blood pressure and causes a reduction in the body's production of cortisol, the so-called "stress hormone".

Research shows that typically, dog owners tend to have lower blood pressure, a lower heart rate, and even lower cholesterol levels, which all help lessen the risk of heart disease.

Those who are unfortunate enough to suffer a heart attack are twice as likely to be still alive, one year after their attack, than those without a dog.

The exercise we get from walking our dogs benefits us in many ways. The most obvious perhaps, being the calories we burn-up, helping us to keep trim, but are you also aware that another benefit of regular walking, being a weight-bearing exercise, is an improvement in bone density, therefore lessening your likelihood of developing osteoporosis?

On their website, the NHS tells us that by walking regularly we can help reduce our risk of high blood pressure, heart disease, stroke, osteoporosis, cancer, diabetes, and even arthritis.

Exercise also encourages our brains to produce endorphins, helping to lift our mood, so perhaps it's no surprise to learn that walking has also been shown to help alleviate the symptoms of depression.

Dogs are a good antidote to loneliness, and companionship is often the reason we bring a dog into our home. Whilst walking your dog itself promotes numerous health benefits, it also provides you with the perfect excuse to be outside, giving you more opportunity to meet others. A dog is a good conversation starter and people often seem quite keen to chat and indeed, will often initiate conversation, when you're out with your dog.

You may decide to enter a few shows with your dog or join a local training class or club. These are also good ways to meet like-minded folk. I have some friends: a happy couple, who have been together for over 6 years now, having met at their local puppy training class!

A dog is an unbeatable friend. Your dog won't judge you, or talk behind your back. He will love you unconditionally, is always on your side and will always be thrilled to see you. He won't answer you back, and may well defend you as though his life depends on it!

Undoubtedly, owning a dog is a serious responsibility and a long-term commitment. Demands will be made on your time, patience, energy and cash. You should only consider getting a dog if you are fully confident that you are willing and able to provide a loving, knowledgeable home where your dog can lead a full and happy life.

If, after all that, you do decide to go ahead and bring home a canine companion, like millions of others, you might well decide that your mutt really is the best medicine of all!

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